There's one of yours....

Tuesday, October 16, 2018
Lately I've been thinking about families. Two times in particular are of interest.  I have an uncle and aunt (really cousins but that's another story) and every time I see them my Aunt says,"Charles, there's one of yours!"  First, she's the only person I've ever heard call him Charles. It seems extra special when she says it. Second, it feels good to be considered "one of yours". The aforementioned Aunt and  Uncle are the kindest people ever.  Charles is actually my father's cousin but I didn't realize it until I was an adult. He was always just one of my dad's younger brothers. Weird, I know...it doesn't matter how they are categorized though. My dad has been dead for years and his family never really kept in touch with us. That's probably not fair to say as they were always very good about attending baby showers and such but I only remember being called 2 times from the time I was in grade school until I became an adult. That makes it all the more special to be considered "one of yours." Families are interesting like that. 

On another note about families...a few weeks ago we were leaving a soccer game and one of the Angel Boys friends said,"Hey...." using his mom's first name instead of just a generic Hey Mom. I asked him if he always called his mother by her first name and he replied if he just yelled,"Hey Mom," several mothers would answer and reply and it was just easier. He's right on a lot of levels. In a small town like ours the kids have many mothers. 
Today, I took my kid to the doctor's office and the  Boss Lady hugged me and called me friend and called my kid by name and filled in the other provider on his interest, etc.  She also asked about the other kids and I asked of hers.  The other doctor spoke to me and I asked about his kids. He went on to tell me all about his oldest playing soccer, etc.  I asked about his parents who I've known since I was barely a teenager. 

I guess it doesn't really matter how people are related, from cousins to chosen family. We need support from a lot of different people in a lot of different situations. Some of our families are involved out of obligation and others considered family are providing the day to day support.  No matter how they are classified it is important to be thought of as "one of yours", dear friends, of another kids back-up Mom.

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